Who do you turn to for support?
June is the first month of summer, and for many of us at Youth United, the start of a new life chapter: Derek, Zoe, Lia, and Nura graduated from high school! As we look back at this past school year and reflect on what we are grateful for, we know that we could not have done it without our vast support networks.
The people in our lives are valuable sources of strength, and inspired this month’s question of the month:
Who is someone who supports your wellbeing, and how do they do so?
Read the team’s answers below, and let us know who you turn to for support!
I get support from my friends. Even when everything is complete chaos, there’s always someone who’s willing to grab coffee or do homework with me. Struggling and pushing forward is less draining when you have other people who are in the same boat as you. I like having a balance of different friends with different priorities so I can feel supported no matter what.
My parents support my wellbeing. Not only are they consistently there to support me when I need help, but they also are willing to give me room and space to be independent. By offering me different types of help--whether that be space or connection--I always feel like I can rely on them to help me stay in a positive place
A person who supports my well-being is my mom, who always supports me when I’m feeling overwhelmed. She does the little things that make a huge difference in my mental wellness like helping me study, helping organize my room or listening to me vent which all helps relieve stress in my life.
My close friends show me hope and support by just taking the time to check in. It doesn’t mean spending every second together, but it means sharing parts of your life–both the challenges and the joys–and knowing to honor all experiences as they come and go.
My close friends have recently been doing more things that support my wellbeing without them knowing the positive effect it’s had on me. For whatever reason, we are so interconnected that they know when I’m feeling a little down, when I need to get out of the house, or even when I’m in a good mood to keep those good times rolling. Friends have been one of the sources of strength that I’ve turned to throughout this year that have positively impacted my wellbeing as the life chapter that is high school is about to come to a close.
When I am struggling with my mental health, the person I get and seek the greatest support from is Chloe. People will often encourage talking to someone but I think one of the things I appreciate most is how she doesn’t try to get me to disentangle the pathology of my sadness before I’m ready, especially when it can seem so unknowable. Instead, she has the compassion to sit through it with me and weather the storm. At first it is her steadiness, her kindness, and her patience that grounds me and brings my mind back to the present before we begin to talk through whatever is going on and map that terrain out. To have someone there through good times and to stay solidly by my side through the worst of them is a gift for which I cannot express enough gratitude.
Someone who I turn to for support is Miriam “Delirium” Stevenson, the former assistant principal of my high school. When I was struggling with my mental health during my junior year, she noticed that I wasn’t doing well and went out of her way to support me. We’ve been tight ever since, and have stayed in touch since I graduated. Even though I’m already halfway through college, she continues to be one of the first people I turn to when I need advice. I’m grateful for the ways she continues to push me to think differently and stay true to myself.
Someone who supports my well-being is my mom. She may not always understand what I’m going through, but she still is there nonetheless, and that means everything to me